As the day goes bye

Sexy red Luas

Everyday is learning day .

Every moments, interactions and every meeting .

We are meant to learn from each others from everything around us.

Even from those we consider inferior or lesser than us.

We are guiding each other to come home.

Whether we see it or not is another question.

As our time is clocked and running out, if nothing is learnt then we only have ourselves to blame.

Be mindful that the universe will again and again put us in the similar situation with similar people until the lesson learnt.

I failed to do this in many occasions, for being too nice leading to manipulation and abuse. I faced similar painful life experiences to a point that I questioned if being nice a liability.

The important life lesson I needed was to have boundaries with others which i failed to established repeatedly.

I was people pleaser.

My default response when being wronged or disrespected was I'm sorry'.

Being nice without boundaries equal to self destruction.

Being nice also means saying fuck off when the boundaries crossed.

Unconditional love is fairytale and wrong.

To love is to mutually respect and acknowledge each others’ boundaries .

I had the joy meeting toxic narcissist again and again like I was their magnet .

Tough but eventually, lessons learnt the hardest way for sure.

The collective and our own consciousness dictate our reality.

‘ The observer’ effect I would say.

And one' reality varies unique to each individual .

We are weak if we are easily affected by others words and opinions.

The negativity is simply the reflection of them.

They likely meant to provoke response or reaction.

We are the projectors, thoughts and emotions come and go.

Just like our social media feeds we don’t always have to react to all of them.

We feel and acknowledge everything but we never let the negativity to consume us.

If we are overwhelmed by the emotion ,if the amygdala hijack is on overdrive, one of the most powerful way to break the cycle is a mindfulness breathing technique 8,8,8 as discussed in previous entry.

This is very easy very effective method that can be done almost anywhere.

It works by activating the parasympathetic nerves which will dampen down the initial response.

You will feel amazed how much control we actually have.

A cold shower is another personal favourite which is also very helpful.

The cold shower also activate the parasympathetic nerve system which counteract the initial sympathetic drive.

Cold shower is amazing and I loved finishing off my shower with one.